Rubbish! I don’t agree to such claims. You cannot blame parents alone. A lot of other factors also determine such behavior.

Yes, there are a number of factors out there. However, we have to do that little part well - being a good parent. And when we are not, we cannot take refuge in the ’other factors’.
Let those factors play their part, the question is whether we manage to play our parts well enough?
And yes, we don’t.

Absolutely agree to you Deepa! Parents of today are in a precarious position..juggling home front, career as well as personal front...still they try their level best to set the best examples for their wards. So many factors are to be thought upon, before passing such a judgemental statement!

@Reshmi agree with you. Parents are responsible, but they cannot be blamed for everything that goes wrong with the child.

TV...i blame the TV for everything

I think parents today are a victim of having been brought up in pre-liberal Indian society and having to raise their kids in an increasingly liberalized mindset...

Its difficult for them too you know and its hard for people to show themselves as role models when they themselves are experiencing this ”New India” for the first time...

But kudos to parents who try to not judge their kids too hard and kudos to people who are at least making an effort to keep up with the mindset of the new generation...

Yes! A lot of things do not depends on the parents but there are Lot others which do depend on them and they fail to fulfill their responsibilities there(Most of the time).

Please don’t take me otherwise as I’m not saying this just for the heck of it but because of some of my resent experiences.

I would like to share one with you all. We all know that eating junk food is bad for the health. Our parents used to scold us from having burgers and pizzas. Recently I saw a smart and educated girl offering burger to her child who was still in the cradle.

There are many more such examples but can’t mention each of them here. All I can say is that I agree with the title.

The question is not what spoils the child at the end of the day. The question is how far do parents discharge their responsibility.

The child may turn out to be a criminal even after all the value injections his or her parents give. But when even parents do not do their bit, another factor - and the most influential one - works against the child.

Simply because there are other factors involves, it does not mean the parents can shirk their responsibility.

Earlier you mentioned that parents don’t play their role well enough and so they blame it on other factors. I totally disagree on that. Though this differs for every individual and varied circumstances, these days its very difficult for parents to imbibe the right values.

And the definition of right values is also changing with times. Today’s parents cannot be as conservative and strict as our parents or grand parents have been. We need to change with changing times.

Who will ascertain how loose or tight the noose should be?

Parents are the way they are because they have come to somehow believe in ’tolerance’ and they see it as the opposite of ’discipline’. So, they give their children ’liberties’ and these liberties turn out to be damaging for the little ones because liberties can only be useful when one has the tools to decide.

The liberties, therefore, reach the child reaches the stage where he could use them effectively.

Children today have all kinds of liberties but no moral compass to guide them. so, at the end of the day they are just misguided brats. And parents are squarely to be blamed for it. Even if there are other factors involved, the effect of such factors could well be arrested by sensible parental guidance.

I think we’re missing some very important things here amid all our comments/ points of view.

What you call parenting may mean have diverse interpretation to different person. Well, the conditions/ circumstances under which a person or the parents bring up their children are equally dissimilar. So goes the concept of being the role models for the children. Most of the times children believe their parents to be the best in world, but its all upon the parents to assess what their responsibilities/duties were/are and how much responsible were they in handling them out?

yes...goood point!